Marybeth Simmons · July 11, 2017
Your wife needs emotional intimacy, which is feeling relationally close to you. You are her husband. You are the man she has chosen to spend the rest of her life with. You are the one with whom she took covenant vows for better for worse. She desires and deserves emotional connection with you.
But sadly many women feel distant from their husbands. When was the last time you did something intentional to foster emotional closeness with your wife? According to popular author Gary Rosberg,
“A woman is honored by her husband when he listens to her, he connects with her, and then she begins to experience emotional intimacy. But a lot of times we don’t know how to do it. How do we let our wives into the interior of our hearts? Scripture has a lot to say. In 1 Peter 3:7, we read: ‘Husbands, in the same way, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.’ And when scripture says live with her as the weaker vessel, that doesn’t mean second class; it means she’s more fragile. You need to be tender. You need to be gracious. You need to be respectful of your wife.”
Your wife needs you emotionally. She needs closeness to you that is only found in healthy conversation. And she deserves better than your leftovers.
Heroic Husband Challenge #4: Your next challenge during this season of heroic manhood is to create a new level of emotional closeness with your wife. Here are a few suggestions:
Present your wife a love gift by connecting with her in some new way this week. Doing so may not feel like a gift to you because you have different primary needs than she does. But it will be a gift to her heart that she will eagerly receive. You know that your wife needs greater emotional connection with you. Make it happen now!
Going Further:
Take a simple step toward greater emotional connection by downloading a date night idea from the INTENTIONAL HUSBANDS page.
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